Lessons to learn

As kids, we were often told if were did certain things the way the adult wanted it, we'll be offered the carrot, and when we don't listen to them, we'll be punished. Yes it works, even with kids too. None enjoy punishment, espcially kids who are so readily intimidated once you start to threaten to stop them from having thier beloved snacks and fast food, from watching their favourite TV shows and to lock away their die-also-must-play gameboy and XBox. But adults should realise that the same trick does not work on kids as they grow older. They are now more knowledgeable. They have grown mentally, evolving to have a mind of their own, know what they want and what they don't want. They are not moved easily by the carrot, after all the carrot may not be what they desire and on the other hand, they are not afraid of punishment. In fact the more threats put into their face, the more rebellious they become. Yes, it may be true that deep down the kid still respect the adult and does agree with the adult in some way or another but just wanna defy the adult on purpose. But perhaps it's time for the adult to stop and think that he cannot control the kid forever. Perhaps what he has offered to the kid is inadequate. And the kid is now finding an alternate route to voice his dissatifaction. Perhaps, the kid really knows what he wants while the adult is adamant that the child doesn't know what's good for him. There is always a time to let go, definitely not a total let go, but e grip should not be as tight as it used to be. Of cos there will still be some kids who listen faithfully to everything the adult has to say, obey him fully for fear of punishment or perhaps is not knowledgeable (due to the lack of exposure??) to decide for himself. The important thing is when your kid disobey you, the adult should listen and tend to his needs, admit his mistake(if they had made any) and not come up with all sorts of reasons and excuses as to why your kid disobeys you. Also, offering the carrot to the kid who chose to listen to you isn't the right and only way to go about putting them in place, since afteall they are all your kids.


In any competion, there has to be a loser and a winner. The only difference lies between a sore loser and a gracious loser. When a competitor wins, all he needs to do is simpy thank the crowd, his supporters and promise to work harder for greater support. It's never gracious to try to run down ur competitor for whatever reason, for after all a victory has already been secured. It is especially embarrassing when your competitor who lost can thank the crowd and even the winner graciously. And when the win is just marginal, you should not come up with reasons as to why you didn't win as much as you should but instead look into how you could have done better. Always compare yourself to a better competitor than a weak one. Looking at how you have improved comparing yourself to a weak competitor is no improvement. And especially when you are up against a weak competitor, you do not claim that you won by a large margin due to your capabilities and excellent performance. And lastly, when the win in't overhelming, you can't claim it to be, the spectators has eyes to see for themselves.

To be a fair competitor, you should avoid trying to win support by giving your spectators free breakfast and abalone porridge, dangling huge carrots. You should not tell your spectators that you have no time to train as you have wasted time on thinking on how to fix your opponent and buying support. You should not call your competitor names such as horses or donkeys or describe the competitor team as wayang. You should not claim that your competitor is a liar, has commited a crime when you have no evidence. You do not call your opponent a troublemaker when they have seriously, made no trouble. When your opponent insisted he pinned his number tag on his shirt but was not there, later to realise through the cctv that it is in his locker but have since apologized for the confusion caused, you should accept graciously and move on. You should not continue to ask for an explanation as to why he deliberately left the number tag in the locker. Anyway it's hard to prove the intention. And you mean you can detain him cos of that??!!

But well to be fair, you have to remember to do everything you need to do on time before starting the race. And if you have lost terribly, concede defeat, don't deny the winner's victory.

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Since they promise to deliver in the coming 5 years, so if everything is delivered as promised, all lifts are built, what do they still have to offer 5 years later? We shall see.