WISDOM

Something I found very interesting from Jen's site... Makes me envious everytime I visit her site. Her life's so much fun and mine's like shiet. Well I guess that's the different culture and lifestye in different countries. It's just.... different way of living. I don't love mine, not as much as I love hers and she love hers.....

Some Sex and The City wisdom:
Here are a few of the famous lines of Carrie, Samantha, Miranda and Charlotte.

1. If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
2. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
3. If you have ANY doubt in your mind about a man's character, leave him.
4. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache
5. Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be.
6. Don't force an attraction.
7. Slower is better.
8. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
9. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
10. Have faith in God regarding your relationship, but don't let faith make you stupid. God does things decent and in order.
11. Don't settle.
12. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
13. If he keeps changing his mind about the relationship--take that as a BIG sign that he is unstable. Do you really want to be with a man like that?
14. Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
15. Honorable men take care of their business and aren't involved in a whole lot of mess.
16. The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
17. There's only one 'reason' a man dumps you; he doesn't want you.
18. Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?
19. You really do have to kiss a few frogs before finding the prince.
20. Always put yourself and your happiness first.
21. Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
22. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up.
23. If he doesn't call, he just isn't that interested.
24. Be honest and upfront.
25. Know when to cut the cord, don't be strung along.
26. Don't fall for the "I'm confused role". Remove yourself from the situation to let him figure things out (but don't wait for him, move on).
27. If you want to have a clue as to how he will treat you, watch how he treats the WOMEN in his family (not just mom).
28. There's more than physical abuse, there's emotional and mental abuse. If he causes any of them...flee.
29. You cannot change a man's behaviors. Change comes from within.
30. Don't let him place rules on you that he is not willing to follow himself --double-standard.
31. Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has better education or in a better job.
32. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man,nothing more nothing less.
33. Demand respect and if he can't give it, he can't have you!
34. Don't compete with other woman, but be aware that men are attracted to what they see.
35. If you think he is cheating, he probably is. Confront him right away and if you feel he's lying, leave him.
36. Actions speak louder than words.
37. Never let a man define who you are.
38. Never rely on a man for compliments, look to yourself for that.
39. Never borrow someone else's man.
40. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
41. Just because he says he loves you, doesn't mean that he won't hurt you and it doesn't mean that you are meant to be with him.
42. To use painful hard-won wisdom --'get it right' the next time.
43. Know that you deserve to be the number one person in the life of the number one person in your life.
44. Love is a verb.
45. Learn to give up your lifelong task of trying to make someone unavailable-available, someone ungiving-giving, and someone unloving-loving.
46. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
47. All men are NOT dogs.
48. You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a Two way street.
49. If you don't love yourself...you can't love anyone else.
50. You cannot mend someone else's broken heart.
51. You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage...deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.
52. You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complementary...not supplementary.
53. Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.
54. NEVER give more in a relationship than you are getting out of it.
55. Never become your man's "therapist".
56. When actions and words conflict, believe the actions. Respond to the actions.
57. A real healthy relationship requires two people. One person can end it -- but it takes two to make it work.
58. Don't fall for the "I'm not the loving type"...when a man loves you there is nothing in this world (within reason) that he wouldn't do for you.
59. Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and you're always readily available to him he takes you for granted.
60. Give him his space...let him go out with his boys, don't pressure him to spend time with you, you cant force a man to hang out with you.
61. If you wouldn't allow your daughter to be with him you shouldn't.
62. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
63. Never move into his mother's house.
64. Provide financially for yourself and don't depend on anyone.
65. Never co-sign for a man.
66. Never believe you have the perfect guy and he is so innocent.
67. Never spoil your man; let him spoil you.
68. Never let a man mess up your credit.
69. When it's time to let go; let go.
70. Good men should be treated like good men.
71. Don't play games.
72. Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.
73. Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
74. Compatibility in terms of educational attainment, values, beliefs, personal and career goals, and socioeconomic status, are important.
75. Never date a guy who wears colored contacts.


A long list, if you've had the patience to finish reading, kudos. I did. I found some particularly meaningful and they apply to me and people around me. I must say I have rather similar mentality with the cast (or rather, the script writer) yeah. Haha. Got you thinking, huh?

Passion is a feeling you feel when you feel you are about to feel a feeling you've never felt before.
meLis

Night of Dreams

Did you have any dream when you were young? Are there things left undone, not accomplished? As you grow older, you'll slowly taste the cruelty of life, how realistic the world is and you'll start to forget abt the dreams and goals you once lived in. Sometimes it's the environment that change, sometimes it's you that change. Or perhaps they both bring about changes to each other. Do you have time to reminisce? Even when you do, what do you think about? Lost youth, lost dreams, lost love, lost soul. Perhaps somethings are just not meant to be, some dreams will and can never be realised. But did you even try? Or perhaps regrets make life complete. Or maybe we should create memories instead of living in memories......

I don't know how many of you can grasp the meaning behind the pics... I love the 1st one especially and the images on the upper part of the last pic... N yah with our kok hairstyle. We took like 30 plus pictures in the school compound. Think the pictures look too small, I don't have the original sizes. Will get from Kaili. And lastly thanks to Kaili for making our photos look so nice, Hui & Huiqi for coming over to help us take the pics, and thanks to Yongbin cos i kop the pics from your blog without your permission haha.

Anyone who's interested to watch or have frens who are interested to watch pls contact me... I may not have invited you cos i dunno if you r interested or not or whether you wud have any company....

Report - My Life

Yes I haven been blogging.... I've been complained abt that. So here I am blogging from my office haha. I've mentioned I hate to read blogs on people's boring mundane life, but I've decided to post one, to explain for my MIA. Before that, you'll probably catch me on Project Superstar on Channel U tonight for barely a second. And due to unforseen circumstances, I can't go for the Superstar's quarter finals recording at Mediacorp today!! I wanna go badly! I wanna support Jiaxin! So i told her she better make it for the semi-finals so that I can see her again haha. I felt Mediacorp is pretty dumb to schedule the recording and the broadcast of an episode on the same day, fans or friends would definitely go for the recording and this would cause a dip in viewership right? Oh but since there's no competition now, viewership doesn't matter I guess.

So I've started work. No lah not a perm job but a temp one. I'm actually standing in for my aunt who needs to go for a surgery, for a month. My aunt's a senior secretary so basically I'm taking over her duties. My lil cousin (her son), joked "Wah you so fast promote to senior secretary ah" Haha. I'm working in a very established and big organization but which uses faulty staples, scissors, back dated computers and cheapskate pens like those yellow colour 'Fine' pens (U get the idea? It's just those v lok kok ones... that comes in bundles in a box). Yes this is madness, they started using computers only this Feb after my bro feedback to my boss that it's (really) time to change... previously everything was writtened down in those huge and long accounts-like book where they have the printed horizontal blue lines and you have to draw the vertical ones to divide them into columns.

Oh yah did I mention that my bro works in the same company as me (or rather the other way round). We sit back to back, divided by a wall with an opened connection-room door. We're in the corporate affairs department at the branch office. Luckily I'm not stationed at the HQ, otherwise I'll have to wear court shoes, and will be CAUGHT my a mean Exec Director who goes round spotting and scolding people who doesn't wear one. Yah basically it's a very traditional company cos it's a family business and things are pretty disorganized. But hey they are such an established and rich company, they have many properties under them and even established themselves overseas. I can't reveal their many properties and which organization I'm working for exactly here on my blog though I've told my friends in private. And yah life's tiring, with work in the day and rehearsals at night and on weekends. Plus having to plan for my graduation trip to Taiwan. To my Taiwan trip kakis: I've gotta be honest here guys, I haven done abit of research on it. And worse I'm having rehearsals every night for next week. Well but I'm bearing it all because of the good pay here. They are an old fashioned organization but they pay very good money. What I'm earning now is close to prolly what I'll get when I start out on my perm job. I had wanted to give up hopes on looking for a job after several futile attempts and cheated interviews(Refer to post on Cheater Bugs) and after sending more than half a hundred resumes, then came this job opportunity. You know, it's all for the money.

Actually I was doing those very-temp temp jobs before this haha, which was offering very good pay at like 15-20 bucks per hour. They were all for like a couple of hours for a few days. But earned good money in return. And while holding this temp job right now, I did a translation job for 2 legal documents, for my cousin's Swiss boss over the weekend and I was again paid good money in US$. My cousin told the boss that I stayed up til 6am in the morning(which I really did of cos!) to complete it and the boss immediately doubled my pay on the assignment. Haha.

So in a nutshell I'm like "rehearsing" for my working life, getting used to things before I actually drown myself in it when I start my perm job.

I actually have some interesting topics and pix for blogging but I'm just plain lazy. Lazy to upload from my phone and lazy to go online, that's y you don't see me online now. And this computer I'm using right now has the MSN locked by the network administrator, so I can't go on MSN! And when I get home, I'll be lazy again cos I know if I were to go online I'll chat like there's no tomorrow and be deprived of sleep, which is a big no no. I don't want my already very dark eye rings to get any darker.

*I've bought the tix to my performance for you guys, will arrange for you all to collect and pay ok :p*


=Stay tuned k!=

《夜长梦多》

Credits to Yongbin.
These pictures are simply irresistable! So much so that I have to re-post them from Yongbin's blog, with his permission of cos. Thx!

A long lovely night. I love my drama friends! I love my fellow cast and production team! I love drama! Only you all would understand......

Cheater Bugs

Hui has commented that my blog is mainly for slamming people and reprimanding their acts. I do not deny it. Why so I have so much complains and so much to criticize? Because they force me to. I simply cannot justify their silly acts and they deserved to be slammed!

Company A had informed me of a vacancy of an admin assistant and arranged for an interview. So I went all the way for the interview early in the morning. I sensed something wasn't right when I stepped outta the lift cos the whole floor was under this "brand". But I thought they might really just need an admin assistant. It was the first time I was asked to complete a personality test sheet for an interview... Guess what I was told? I'm over qualified for the position. Goddamn I'm looking for a TEMP job! Who cares about being over qualified when I'm merely asking for a reasonable hourly wage. The interviewer declared he wanted a perm staff. Wth... I specified that I'm looking for a temp job in the email and the resume. He couldn't have missed that when he had read and replied my mail. So he offered an alternative, to be a financial advisor. *Ta dah*... The truth is out. That's just a gimmick. The truth is they just offer you any positions, tell you you're not suitable when you turn up for an interview and try to sell you the idea of being a FA. Gave me loadsa reasons, like being self-employed, don't need any capital, flexible hours for my performance and able to pursue my interest. Nahz I'm just not interested.

Rushed for a second interview in a day and it started to rain. The moment I reached Company B at a pretty ulu location, I received a call from the interviewer while waiting for the lift. She asked if I'm working on a temp basis, I said yes and she said she needed a perm. Damnit! I'm downstairs! I'm so pissed. Can't these people show more responsiblity? When people send you an email and resume, you jollywell read it! Open your eyes and read. If you managed to see the position I'm seeking(with a TEMP stated) and my contact number, you can't miss the TEMP! And I did double check with the person who contacted me that I'm looking for a temp job only. It's totally irresponsible to only scrutinise my resume at the time when I'm supposed to come for an interview. It's the Nth time I've said this, no one can beat me in being suay!

Attended a focus group later in the day, which was actually hosted by that very same "brand". My group was rather anti-FA, the moderators mentioned that we were the most negative group they came across. Haha. And we all rattled on about how we or people around us were cheated by the company or disgusted by the FAs at roadshows. It was tough on the moderators too, having to defend themselves. And of cos I mentioned about the interview that very morning plus the agent who pretended to know me. All the moderators managed was "the blacksheep, the blacksheep". I've signed a confidential agreement to not reveal any details I've seen and heard then so I can't divulge more except that I earned good money and good dinner for it. And because we were referred by different employment agencies, some poor guy was paid only half of what the others earned.

Anyways I'm having another interview for the position of junior secretary but in the same building as the first interview. I suspect it's a scam again. I'll call to make sure. Don't waste my time n money!!

=Such a boring post=